Ola!
Today's post is something different. It's about a seemingly simple yet complicated relationship.. that we all (especially girls) fantasize about.. something we like to think about and dream about.. If you are a girl, I bet you would understand what I am talking about :)
Have you ever dreamed about the day you would get married? Do you fantasize about the way your marriage would be.. the kind of dress you would wear? The kind of altar you would stand at and take your vows?
Many of us must have done it at some time or the other. Yes, I know many of you who tend to be very cool types won't tend to agree. But ask yourself and you'll know the answer. :)
Has it ever occurred to you why do we actually think about this topic? Like why not fantasize about taking a world tour or being the CEO of the company or becoming a politician or a writer or a Hollywood actor?
We all have a common fantasy about marriage. Ever thought about why is getting married so important to us? Yes apart from the answers the naughty minds at work might give :P
If you think about it, marriage is a very weird kind of a relationship.. in the age where you get a guarantee of even a pizza delivery, it is something which comes without any guarantee or warranty. It is an example of god's miraculous work where two people who have grown up separately a quarter of their lives.. may have different tastes, habits, thoughts, priorities, basically different lives.. just get bonded till next 3 quarters of their lives! Somehow you just start trusting the person who was a stranger the previous day! I mean wow! Amazing, isn't it?
I don't know about you but I think i had started dreaming about my big day many years ago.. i think the idea struck when i was at a wedding and i observed how happy the bride and the groom were.. and how beautiful they looked.. and the whole celebration.. everything had just an impact on me.. You know we dream about many things.. I remember dreaming about a wedding about which everybody would say "omg! What a wedding! How much they love each other! What a lovely bride" and the list goes on :P
If you ask me today when almost a quarter of a century of my life has passed.. I still dream.. :)
I don't have any clear pictures of me.. but i still fantasize how the one will ask me to marry him.. how will that moment be.. How his eyes would be when he sees me in the bridal wear on our wedding day.. I guess every girl does that :D
But I'm afraid too.. Staying independently for quite some time now and having a set routine.. with work and life getting boring by the day.. I don't know how it would be to get along with a different person..
I don't know if in the first place, anybody will ever come and ask me that special question.. I don't know how would we react to the difference in opinions.. how would we go about carrying out the day to day and routine tasks of a married couple.. i don't know how would we split the responsibilities.. if we would do that or not.. i don't know how would it be to suddenly start living with a family again after living with people who are not family for a couple of years.. questions are many..
You know when i browse through facebook.. i see every other day the happy lives of married people..
I sometimes wonder what does it take to make a happy and everlasting marriage?
Is it the ability to compromise or change yourself? (which is like not being you ) or is it because we stay half of the time away like in office so the minimal time we spend with each other (apart from sleeping) is so minimal that we can just pass it..? Or is it hanging out together for a lot of time? or staying like room mates having own lives ? Sometimes you have so much of uncertainties in life! It becomes very hard to even fantasize and imagine your dream world.. :(
I do sometimes dream of an ever lasting marriage.. but then start having my what ifs and buts.. sometimes it makes you so helpless that you can't see your future. :P
Anyways,
I can't say if I'll ever have that dream marriage.. but I do hope that I have a good one.. that someday somebody do ask me that special question.. and that whenever he looks at me i see in his eyes, deep love and the willingness to stand by me and accept me as the person I am..
I've still not found out what takes it to have a happy marriage..I guess it would come with experience :D
Till then,
Good night.
Today's post is something different. It's about a seemingly simple yet complicated relationship.. that we all (especially girls) fantasize about.. something we like to think about and dream about.. If you are a girl, I bet you would understand what I am talking about :)
Have you ever dreamed about the day you would get married? Do you fantasize about the way your marriage would be.. the kind of dress you would wear? The kind of altar you would stand at and take your vows?
Many of us must have done it at some time or the other. Yes, I know many of you who tend to be very cool types won't tend to agree. But ask yourself and you'll know the answer. :)
Has it ever occurred to you why do we actually think about this topic? Like why not fantasize about taking a world tour or being the CEO of the company or becoming a politician or a writer or a Hollywood actor?
We all have a common fantasy about marriage. Ever thought about why is getting married so important to us? Yes apart from the answers the naughty minds at work might give :P
If you think about it, marriage is a very weird kind of a relationship.. in the age where you get a guarantee of even a pizza delivery, it is something which comes without any guarantee or warranty. It is an example of god's miraculous work where two people who have grown up separately a quarter of their lives.. may have different tastes, habits, thoughts, priorities, basically different lives.. just get bonded till next 3 quarters of their lives! Somehow you just start trusting the person who was a stranger the previous day! I mean wow! Amazing, isn't it?
I don't know about you but I think i had started dreaming about my big day many years ago.. i think the idea struck when i was at a wedding and i observed how happy the bride and the groom were.. and how beautiful they looked.. and the whole celebration.. everything had just an impact on me.. You know we dream about many things.. I remember dreaming about a wedding about which everybody would say "omg! What a wedding! How much they love each other! What a lovely bride" and the list goes on :P
If you ask me today when almost a quarter of a century of my life has passed.. I still dream.. :)
I don't have any clear pictures of me.. but i still fantasize how the one will ask me to marry him.. how will that moment be.. How his eyes would be when he sees me in the bridal wear on our wedding day.. I guess every girl does that :D
But I'm afraid too.. Staying independently for quite some time now and having a set routine.. with work and life getting boring by the day.. I don't know how it would be to get along with a different person..
I don't know if in the first place, anybody will ever come and ask me that special question.. I don't know how would we react to the difference in opinions.. how would we go about carrying out the day to day and routine tasks of a married couple.. i don't know how would we split the responsibilities.. if we would do that or not.. i don't know how would it be to suddenly start living with a family again after living with people who are not family for a couple of years.. questions are many..
You know when i browse through facebook.. i see every other day the happy lives of married people..
I sometimes wonder what does it take to make a happy and everlasting marriage?
Is it the ability to compromise or change yourself? (which is like not being you ) or is it because we stay half of the time away like in office so the minimal time we spend with each other (apart from sleeping) is so minimal that we can just pass it..? Or is it hanging out together for a lot of time? or staying like room mates having own lives ? Sometimes you have so much of uncertainties in life! It becomes very hard to even fantasize and imagine your dream world.. :(
I do sometimes dream of an ever lasting marriage.. but then start having my what ifs and buts.. sometimes it makes you so helpless that you can't see your future. :P
Anyways,
I can't say if I'll ever have that dream marriage.. but I do hope that I have a good one.. that someday somebody do ask me that special question.. and that whenever he looks at me i see in his eyes, deep love and the willingness to stand by me and accept me as the person I am..
I've still not found out what takes it to have a happy marriage..I guess it would come with experience :D
Till then,
Good night.
No comments:
Post a Comment